So one of my bestest friends in the whole world who has been there through thick or thin (and I've really only known less than a year, so a testament to her awesomeness) managed to be produced from right wing conservatism that borders on fanatic. Okay maybe that's harsh but you'll see why I group her so extremely when she's done the exact same to me.
First off if this is your first time to my blog I should give a little background...I'm a lesbian. There now that we've gotten that out of the way, let's proceed.
History. I haven't even met "mom" (my bf's fundamentalist right wing conservative parental figure, hereafter known as mom) but she's cropped up on FB threads and gotten a little snippy with me so I started openly communicating more with her on common threads. Now at the time I didn't realize she was being snippy with me. You have to love this family for their sense of humor. They all crack me up and my bf started it all. I just assumed they'd ALL be as cool as her. Her brother knows a joke from a jab and while I'm friends with her sister as well, she's the silent FB stalker type. I imagine as funny as the other two, but I'm gonna bet she didn't compete and win often for the spotlight with them. OMG, they are fun. Now that we have their awesomeness established let the story begin.
My 9.5 year marriage ended just before Christmas. I was devastated and broken. All of my amazing friends were there to pick me up and carry me through the holidays. My sister in law took me shopping and outfitted me in some sexy new garb, my bf let me hang out and have dinner before a New Year's Eve party, and my LESBIAN friends invited me to a party with them to get me out. So I put on my new make-upped face, my cleavage revealing sexy garb and headed out the door with my booze in hand. After dinner and moving on to the party I had a text exchange with my bf where she told me I was gonna crack up at her FB post. It was sometime before I got a chance to look at it but when I did she was right and it had already gone to the next level. She posted,"Amy Westwood is hot!" (So I'm just gonna post the thread, the names have been removed to protect the innocent and the guilty, I'll highlight mom's comment and the thread has been edited to remove comments that did not affect the outcome).
My BF's original Post
Amy Westwood is hot! :)
Person 1
Who is Amy Westwood???
My BF
My newly single, hot lesbian bestie! LOL! She came over tonight to show us her new self.......
Person 2
Damn, she must of been good!
Mom
Seriously....call me!!! Geejus....
Amy 'West' Westwood
thanks all, i got many compliments.
So the most interesting part of this thread is her mom's comment obviously. I let it go but my bf and I talked about it. She was like I don't really know what crawled up her craw. So moving on to the next interesting story. All was quiet on the mom front and my bestie and I decided to take our boys to the Pacific Science Center one Sunday and hang out. We had ton's of fun and she brought her camera as usual and she documented the good time. So pictures, just to pick on her mom, she planted one on my cheek and posted on FB and the caption read,"This one's for you mom."

Apparently she wasn't amused. I thought it was freakin' hilarious. I friended her on FB but she never responded. Now I've poked fun at her over the time between this pic (mid-January) to now but she hasn't been biting. Then her son, whom I'm also FB friends with is a metrosexual [defined as follows on wikipedia: a portmanteau of metropolitan and heterosexual, is a neologism of the 2000s that refers to a heterosexual man (especially one living in a post-industrial, capitalist culture) that has a strong concern for his appearance or a lifestyle that displays attributes stereotypically associated with homosexual men. Debate surrounds the term's use as a theoretical signifier of sex deconstruction and its associations with consumerism.] and starts posting all of these metrosexual things he's been doing, cooking Paula Dean recipes buying Egyption cotton 750 thread count sheets etc. and I insinuated on FB that he was gay. My exact comment was something to the effect that his mom was worried about the "wrong" kid being turned to the dark side. Well she so was not amused cuz here was her response to my comment:
Mom's comment
I don't have "wrong" kids, you see...I have kids that have brains and can figure out their own destiny! If the dark side makes one happy, then that's fine, but I don't think any one on the dark side is truly happy!! Sorry....
Wow, clearly she misinterpreted the "wrong" comment. Because what I was referring to was that she was worried about her daughter turning to the dark side versus her son. But to generalize and say that no one on the dark side is truly happy? Well fodder found.
She later had a chat with my bf where the topic came up and she finally just let her true feelings be known and her straw that broke the camels back statement, which my bestie forwarded to me was,"I can't believe you all are so friendly with them. Next thing I know she will have you talked into BEING ONE OF THEM haha."
So the implication here is that first, it's a choice. Maybe for some that might be the case. But this is something I feel passionately enough about I wrote a research paper for my genetics class on the topic. Do I think it's genetic? Maybe there's a combination of genes that can be switched, but the most likely culprit is from the pregnancy itself. The papers I've read (yes, I'm educated as she insinuated to her daughter, we were all unintelligent) give some indication it has to do with hormone levels during key developmental processes during gestation (hopefully if she reads this, the words aren't too big for her). For instance when sexual organs are formed there has to be precise hormonal levels that dictate how the glands of the baby release their own hormones to start development. If for any reason estrogen is off or testosterone or progesterone, the mom is actually affecting the baby's sexual organ development and thus tendencies will be affected. Now the mother has no way of knowing if her hormones are out of balance or not, but environment can affect these things. If the mom is stressed for some reason or her diet is not right, etc. It's such a complicated factor its not something that is ever likely to be "fixed". Not too mention it's also a key explanation for the degree of variability in sexual orientation. I've been super dyke, butch, soft butch and at one time even femme. I wasn't trying to self identify with being a man. I was just trying to find how I was comfortable. What would attract the type of woman I'd be interested in. As it turns out I'm not attracted to super dyke or femme. I prefer someone middle of the road just as I am. I like to be cute and wear makeup and dress in tight clothes. I'm not fond of heels and I can't even see myself wearing a tie again. It's a process that most lesbians go through. It's a process most people go through. Teenagers go through it all the time. They'll dress grunge through high school then in college get a law degree and wear suits the rest of their lives. It's a matter of comfort and finding your niche. Not your sexuality.
Then to imply all gay people are unhappy because they are gay? Seriously? Really? First of all I was never happier than when I finally figured out that I wasn't mental but that I was gay and it's not wrong to be attracted to women. Second of all, most pedophiles are straight. Do you think they are happy? Mom's Catholic too and she says I'm unhappy for being gay? Hello the institution you worship under is filled with men who fondle little boys on a regular basis. Secondly I know lot's of gays and lesbians that are happy. I was until my marriage fell apart and I'm not unhappy now because I'm gay, I'm unhappy now because my marriage failed, just like my bestie went through when she divorced. I have friends that are so cheesy happy that it's impossible not to believe in love and happiness when you see them together. So Mom next time you decide to generalize pick something other than sexuality to bite on...maybe you could have chosen my white trashiness or my redneck upbringing. Apparently she has opinions on all these topics as she's a foremost expert on judging other people. I don't know my bible and I'm not a "believer" but what I do believe is that there is just some sound advice in the "good" book and one of those things is,"Judge not lest ye be judged." Next time you want to pick on someone, pick on someone who's stupid and can't defend themselves. Cuz I can.

